THE DANGER OF DATING A CATHOLIC SEMINARIAN
Just of recent, a lady friend was sharing with me about her involvement with a Catholic seminarian. In her words, "I sincerely love this seminarian but I am not at ease with the relationship. My conscience keeps judging me. I have tried so many times to end the relationship but he has always convinced me to remain. At times, I feel like I am doing a lot of disservice to myself and to the church at large but I am not ready to lose him. He has a unique way of expressing his love for me which makes me love him even the more. Brother I am confused, I don't know what to do. Should I continue with the relationship? Or should I just end it and deal with the heartbreak?".
Priests and seminarians are so gifted with sweet tongues so much so that ladies hardly escape their nests. It only takes the grace of God for one lady out of ten to say no to a priest or seminarian's proposal. Little wonder, a friend once said, "it is as if they are taught how to woo women in the seminary".
To ladies, let me advise you. The danger with dating priests and seminarians is that, they can decide at any time to be serious with their vocation. Their consciences can prick them at any point in time and when that happens, you will be at the receiving end. You will be left to handle the heartbreak alone.
Secondly, in the occasion of any abnormality (pregnancy or sickness), they will treat you like a nonentity. No priest or seminarian will be ready to sacrifice his vocation for you. Don't be fooled. If you succeed in causing one his vocation, believe me you will be prime and greatest enemy in life. He will detest you with so much hatred, even three times more than the love he claimed he had for you. It will only take the grace of God and the intervention of the Holy spirit for you to be accepted back as a friend.Thirdly, when it comes to relationships, no being can be as deceptive as priests and seminarians. They say so many things that they don't mean at all. They are experts in expressing fake love. They can swear heaven and Earth when it comes to matters of the heart but in truth, they have little or zero feelings for you. The will make you believe that you are the only one but my sister, you are not among the top 20 in the list. They can make you destroy your beautiful and healthy relationships for them but they won't hesitate to push you away when they don't feel your need anymore.
Finally, you will be shocked and be heartbroken to find out that priests and seminarians that you get involve with are only seeing you as a sex dull or a machine for sexual gratifications. And that is why they can easily relate your case with their friends and if possible try to toss you round among them like a coin. My sister why go through that mental trauma?
Dating them will bring a curse upon yourself. You may find it hard to find a husband and even when you manage to get one, you may live an unhappy marital life.
NOTE: I know this piece will puncture a lot of relationships and hamper lots of friendships which I might be a victim myself, but the truth needs to be told. Let us call a spade a spade. BE WARNED.